In the words of Salt-N-Pepa, "Let's talk about sex, baby"

Welcome to my Substack!

It’s time we had ‘the talk’….

Yes, that one… but trust me this isn’t going to be nearly as awkward as whatever version of the birds and the bees you may or may not have gotten from your parents, church leaders, or the boys in your 7th grade home-ec class.

For starters, we’re all adults here; and while I may have once spent over an hour thinking of euphemisms for male genitalia and writing them on a chalkboard table at a bar in New York City, I hope the fits of giggles we all used to fall into whenever anyone said penis has now passed.

And more importantly, sex isn’t some mythical and mysterious thing for most of us anymore. We can now have these conversations from a place of experience, understanding, and maturity.

Let’s start with a little Q&A to introduce me and this space!

Q: ‘Really? You want to talk about sex with strangers on the internet?’

I want to talk about sex with anyone and everyone willing to engage in a conversation with me. Not in a weird or creepy way, but in a let’s-learn-from-each-other kind of way. I want to remove the stigma, shame, and uncomfortableness so many people have when talking about anything related to sex. And no, this isn’t about sharing in detail what happens in my bedroom or any other room. It’s about learning, understanding, growing, and having conversations that are really important to healthy relationships, healthy self-love, and happier people.

Q: ‘Why now?’

Is it weird to say that talking about sex might be my calling in life? Well, I think it might be. But even if it’s not, I think it’s necessary and fun, and something I’m very passionate about.

Many, many years ago when I was a 24-year-old engaged and then newlywed woman I started a blog about sex. It was called Sack Sessions: Sex Advice for Real Life, which is just hilarious because my 24-year-old self, who had very little real-world sex experience, had no business giving anyone sex advice. I do, however, remember I had a subscription to Cosmopolitan magazine at the time and the advice in there was terrible. I wanted to create something people could relate to! I wrote 15 posts and then stopped.

Eleven years, two babies, a lot of self-discovery, one pending divorce, and much more experience later, and I think I actually have something valuable to say on the topic of sex, sexuality, sensuality, and how it all wraps up into life, relationships, body image, and happiness.

Q: ‘Who is this for?’

Anyone and everyone! But for adults, it’s definitely not for kids. I say that with this caveat though, this is space for anyone wanting to learn, discuss, break down barriers, see another point of view, or just participate in some interesting conversations about sex. Because I really do hope you’ll all participate with me.

This space probably isn’t the one for closed-minded people (although they probably need it more than anyone else) or anyone looking to be a pervert. It’s not a space for slut-shaming, judgment, and ridicule. If you can’t handle words like penis, vagina, cervix, and masturbation this isn’t your newsletter.

Q: ‘Okay, but what are you really going to write about?’

Sex is so multi-faceted. It’s not just physical or emotional or psychological—it’s all of that with a healthy dose of culture, religion, body image, and probably whatever you ate for lunch rolled in. There is so much to talk about!

From what happens in a female body during sex (I can’t speak from the male perspective) to desire to the all-important topic of consent to emotions and everything in between, I plan to talk about it all.

Q: ‘Who are you?’

I’m Paige—a writer, author, blogger, mama, and so much more. I’ve written and self-published two extremely spicy romance novels and one day I know I’ll write more. I’m a soon-to-be-divorced ex-mormon* who has gone through a period of painful, yet beautiful, self-growth in the last few years. Now, at 35, I’m finally ready to live my life for me, and that’s a big part of why I’m here!

*Those two facts aren’t related to each other but are both a big part of my story and what shaped me into who I am today.

I am not, however, a doctor, therapist, or any other kind of medical/mental health professional; so please don’t take anything I write as medical or mental health advice.

Q: ‘What else can readers expect?’

Real, honest, vulnerable stories from my own personal experience and what I’ve learned from interactions/conversations with other people. Anatomically correct terms for body parts, swear words, horror stories from dating apps, and a lot more!

I’ll be here regularly, every Tuesday to start. Please comment and join in on the conversation, and invite your friends too!

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