Everything is connected.
Okay, not everything, but I’ve only been truly passionate about a handful of things in my life and recently that list encompasses self-love, sex/love/relationships, and women’s rights/empowerment. Imagine the way my brain exploded and my soul lit up when I recently discovered those things are all connected. And not just arbitrarily, but intimately and deeply connected.
I was in the middle of a lecture from my sex, love, and relationship coaching program, a lecture on radical self-love when the light bulb went off. I got so excited I had to pause the lecture and celebrate what this knowledge meant for me. I have spent years, literal years, trying to figure out how to make it work for me to be able to write/talk about all the things that interest me in a way that makes sense for readers and doesn’t feel like me just jumping around from topic to topic based on my mood that day. It’s worth noting, that I’m a massive and chronic overthinker, something I’m working on, and I’ve for sure spent too much time thinking about this and not nearly enough time actually doing it, but I’m here now and I guess that’s all that really matters.
So finally making the connection that everything that lights my soul on fire, everything that I could spend hours and hours talking about unprompted, everything that riles me up, everything that I could learn about for years and still not have enough knowledge is tied together was huge for me.
How does it all connect you might ask?
Well, I’ll start by saying that this thread of connection is something I’ll be exploring and talking about a lot more in this space moving forward. But it boils down to a few simple truths that make a lot of sense when you really think about it.
Better sex and better relationships are a natural consequence of radical self-love and self-acceptance (note: this does not mean stagnant complacency with your life, body, mind, etc. but more on that later).
Better sex and relationships happen in environments where everyone, but especially women, feels safe to be themselves, follow their true desires and intuition, and feel pleasure without shame.
Until someone breaks these patterns they are handed down from generation to generation, sometimes over thousands of years. And we are sometimes repeating patterns, carrying around wounds that aren’t even ours without even knowing it.
Women who love and celebrate themselves (and others) are powerful as fuck. Women who own their sexuality and pleasure are powerful. Women like this are hard to control.
It’s so crazy and cool to think about that I keep jumping from post to post writing new bits and pieces as they come to me, letting the words and the thread take me where it will. I’m so excited to keep learning about all of it and share it with you.
And stay tuned for a fun Q&A column coming later this spring.