A friend of mine sent me an Instagram post the other day that said, “What if we had a dating wrapped for single people like a Spotify Wrapped?”
It was hysterical. And it got me thinking.
No, I won’t be listing my dating/sex stats here.
Because I don’t think anyone really cares. But also because that’s not the point. While it’s really fun to look back at your year in music and see the artists and songs you listened to the most, there is very little use for yearly music stats other than entertainment.
Taking an honest look at your dating/sex life and the relationships you had the past year is way more useful.
Were you satisfied with the way things were? Did you spend too much time putting other people’s pleasure ahead of your own? What do you want to change moving forward? And how can you go about that?
Sure, knowing how many hours you spent watching porn or how many times you had to charge your favorite vibrator might be alarming information to have, but it also doesn’t really matter unless there is something you want to change about that behavior. Reflection without acknowledging the things you’d like to improve on is just reminiscing.
I spent several months of 2023 in what I am now lovingly referring to as my “hoe phase”. I have no shame about it—it was necessary for my growth as a human and to finally start stepping into my sexuality—but it’s not something I want to repeat forever. And knowing that allows me to make different choices that more closely align with my values moving forward.
What do you want to change about your sex life in 2024?
Coming in 2024
I held back on starting this newsletter for several weeks earlier this year because I knew eventually I’d want to branch out what I was writing about and was scared to pigeonhole myself into only being able to talk about sex forever and ever.
I’ve spent the last two months putting off changing anything about this space because I didn’t know how I wanted it to look and how to best serve readers going forward. But just like I had to eventually tell my overthinking brain to shut up and start this newsletter, I’m now telling my brain to shut up again and am changing things up slightly!
Coming in 2024, this space will expand to include topics like love, relationships, heartbreak, and dating. Because sex, love, relationships… it’s all connected. Let’s Talk About Sex isn’t going anywhere, it will still be regularly featured in this space. But there is so much more we need to talk about!
Substack makes it easy for you to choose which topics you want to read about. So if you’re here for just the sex talk, you’ll be able to keep it that way. More to come on the additions but I’m excited about the direction I’m moving in the new year and I hope you’re excited to come along with me.
Thank you for being a reader of Let’s Talk About Sex and coming on this vulnerable, important, sometimes rant-filled journey with me. If you know someone who would like to join us please share!